Some People Dance to Your Failures

I was 12 years into a 20-year military career, and I was looking at walking away and giving up my military retirement package. My dad thought I was crazy, and he tried everything he could to talk me out of it.

But he couldn’t see what I saw.

I had to lovingly rise above his “advice” to stay focused on the business I was building.  (And I’m so glad I did, because my network marketing income far surpassed even the best military retirement package.)

No matter what you do, there are some people who will seek to undermine, subvert, invalidate, or even sabotage your efforts.  I promise it will happen.  

If you’re looking to advance in life — pay close attention to this video.  It will help you get a good understanding of this feeling to protect yourself and your interests.

Your Prospect Is Afraid of Being Undermined 

In this series of videos, I’ve been talking about what prevents someone from joining a network marketing company. 

This episode is about the prospect being afraid of being undermined by people that they know.

Let’s say I’m talking to a prospect, and this prospect, when they project forward and think about building the business, says, “I don’t want people that I know or people that I don’t know, to invalidate me or look down on me for doing network marketing.” 

I’m here to tell you that I promise it’ll happen. 

But really and truly, if you’re looking to advance in life (and I don’t care what it is that you want to do), if you want to move up above the norm, then you’ve got to pay close attention to what I’m about to share because it literally, and I don’t say this lightly, can change your life to understand this.

Definitions

You really do need a good understanding of words and you need a full understanding of the feeling that you get. Let me go through a couple of definitions. 

Undermine

If you undermine something, such as a feeling, you’re making it less strong or less secure, often by gradual process or by repeating efforts. 

If you undermine someone or undermine their position (that position could be in network marketing, or any other topic), or their authority, you make their authority or position less secure, often by indirect methods. 

They’re not saying it straight to your face, although they might be in front of you, but they’re coming at you from the side. 

They are saying something that makes you just feel a little nipped. It’s not a knife in your gut. It is just a little nip, or a pin stick. That is the indirect method. 

Subvert 

Subvert is to overthrow or destroy, or to undermine or corrupt, as in morals. 

You can think of a religious person and they get around somebody that would say something negative about their religion. It’s undermining, that’s also a way of subversion. It’s to bring about the complete downfall or ruin of something that is existing. 

Examples could be if you subvert a ship, or you subvert a group of people to change their ways, their mind. It’s from Latin “to turn from below.” The concept of it is it’s hidden. It’s a hidden agenda. 

Invalidate

Invalidate is to render invalid or weak or less or ineffective; to discredit. 

To nullify – make zero, is my favorite definition of invalidate. It means to make zero, make less. 

If somebody says hi to you, and you don’t say hi back to them, that’s making zero. You don’t exist. No effect. For example, if they turn off your microphone while you’re talking. 

That would be just the boldest of invalidations: you’re talking and somebody cuts your mic off. That’s an invalidation. 

Sabotage

This one is a little more raw. It’s sabotage. If someone sabotages a plan or a meeting, they deliberately prevent it from being successful. 

It’s the deliberate obstruction of, or damage to any cause, movement, activity, or effort. It would fall into your effort, the activity that you’re doing.

To injure, disrupt, or destroy by sabotage. The figurative sense is “to injure by invisible, secret, or dishonorable means.” But it doesn’t mean that it has to be invisible. It could be right out sabotage. 

Understand These Words So You Can Understand Their Behavior

I’m really getting somewhere. I know it’s a little bit slow getting there. I know it, but you’ll understand it, I hope. 

Words are symbols that describe a real thing. I’ve shown you four different words to get the full meaning so that you can spot it, not only spot it with words, but you can spot it by feeling. 

I sense it more than I hear it, because most of the time it is covert. It’s hidden from view: 

“But Tim, I just really care about you. It’s the only reason I’m telling you. It’s for your own good.”

It’s the feeling that’s going to matter at that point. It isn’t those words, because it’s so sweet and so thoughtful of them to slide in the knife. Then you think, “Oh, I didn’t know you meant it that way!” 

There is a percentage of the population who sabotage, invalidate, subvert and undermine. 

My Friends Laughed At Me When I Started A Business 

I’m going to give you just a couple of quick experiences in my life to show you those differences. 

My dad threatened to disown me if I got out of the military to do network marketing. 

I was doing it part-time, and I was doing really well. I told my dad that I was going to get out of the Navy. I was coming up on my 12th year, and if I just went eight more years, I would retire with half of my pay for the rest of my life, and he just couldn’t fathom it. 

He wasn’t trying to sabotage or subvert me. He had a goal for me. I had to decide what I wanted. 

I’m not one to throw somebody under the bus, unless they really are doing one of those actions. But I could tell from my dad and the history with my dad, that he had a goal for me. 

There was a gentleman who worked with him, who was retired from the military. My dad always knew that this was just a side job, an extra thing, because he was set for life. He was making half of his base pay because he did 20 years in the military, and my dad didn’t. He got out after four or six years. 

That is a situation where my dad threatened me, but I was able to see his true intention there. 

So what did I do? 

I flew him up to my house and I took him to a meeting that I was doing. I let him see the other people. I let him be around it. And then later he understood why.

I was basically showing him how, in two years I could make all of what the retirement would pay me. And so he said, “Hmm.” That’s the way that I had to handle that one. 

I told friends about my business. They laughed at me. I came in and a guy in the chow hall, a big room filled with people, yelled, “Are you a millionaire yet? Ha ha ha!” And some other guys laughed. 

Invalidate, undermine. That’s what it was. How does that feel? I felt horrible. 

Here’s what I’m trying to teach in this situation. I’m trying to get you to level-up in a perspective. 

I could have it with my dad. I couldn’t have it with these gentlemen. These were peers of mine. We were in the military together. We did a lot of things together and they were friends, so it was kind of odd for me to want to leave, from their perspective. 

I told my dad, “Dad, you’re trying to influence what I want to do. I’m heading in a direction because I want to make more money. If you Dad, are not the person who’s going to pay for the life that I want, the college education if my kids want it, my house, my two cars for me and my wife, then don’t be so strong on your influence on what I want.”

That was the conversation that I had with my dad. 

I knew these “friends” of mine were not going to pay for my future. I also knew that if I was successful, they might not like that. They may see differences. 

It was very interesting to me that just a few years ago one of my buddies that was not in the chow hall when they did that said, “Oh man, I heard from somebody that you won the lottery.” 

I said, “Won the lottery?” 

He said, “Yeah.” 

I said, “No, I built a business.” 

He said, “Oh, I don’t know why they said lottery.” 

That, in their minds, is probably how they viewed it. It wouldn’t have been that I actually built something. It would have been that I lucked out and won the lottery. You see what I’m saying? That was that state of mind. 

I told a friend I wanted to get into rock climbing. The person started sending me pictures and stories of people dying while rock climbing. What was that? That’s full-on subversion – undermining, eroding away, hidden. “Hey, I just thought you’d want to see this.” 

If someone ever sends you a negative article on network marketing, well, good. 

Just turn around and send them Network Marketing Compared to Real Estate.  This video does side-by-side comparisons between the two business models. There are some other videos in that series that focus on other side gigs like affiliate marketing, Amazon selling, actors, etc. 

My Code of Conduct for Myself and My Dreams

These examples from my history are emphasizing words. But like I said, I showed you four definitions because I want you to feel it.

Even if I’m standing there and somebody comes up to me and they start talking to me, and want to ask me a question, like after some kind of an event, I am able to feel it from the person before they say anything. 

I already know this is just one of those kinds of people who want to subvert, sabotage, invalidate, undermine. I just know it. I’m not rude. I just let them say their peace, and then I say, “Hey, thanks so much,” and I just move on. 

But I’m stiff-arming them as a spirit. My attitude is, “You’re out of here.” I’m not going to let that happen. 

That’s the way that I’m able to keep my armor, keep my code of conduct for myself and my dreams. 

Health Inspector Orders Restaurant to Close – Then Dances

I’ve got one thing to show you. This is very, very interesting. I want to tell you about this Tweet (see image below) and then I’m going to go over the security camera video with you, because I want you to see what this lady does. 

The gentleman who posted this Tweet is an attorney for this company called Bravery Brewing. 

He says, “An LA County health inspector dances moments after ordering Bravery Brewing to close. She ended up being wrong, ruined BB (Bravery Brewing), a Super Bowl business. If your restaurant has been bullied or intimidated by Los Angeles County, DM me.” 

Here’s what happened. Bravery Brewery is located in a small town of about 150,000 people out in the Mojave Desert in California. Due to Covid restrictions, the Brewery cannot serve food unless they serve it from a food truck. However, Superbowl Sunday was different. 

Because it was Super Bowl Sunday and they pretty much know everyone in town, they were going to open for four hours for pick up orders only.  No one was eating anything at the Brewery that day.

The cashier employees were there that day, helping two people at the checkout. Thirty minutes after opening, this lady from the LA County Health Inspection walks in. 

She walks up and says, “You have to close immediately.”

They said, “What? What are you talking about?” 

She said, “Yeah, you don’t have a truck here.”

(Since it’s a brewery restaurant, they have to have a food truck in order to be open. It’s a COVID restriction item they have to do.) But because they were not serving that day, they were just doing pickup orders, then it was fine, but she didn’t know that. 

The cashiers tried to explain this to her and she said, “No, you’re shut down.” 

They called the owner and the owner called her, and they talked.

Then the owner said, “You need to contact your supervisor.”

She took 20 minutes to contact her supervisor, and meanwhile moved everybody out of the store. After the 20 minutes, she then required the employees to make copies of 17 different forms in order for her to post them and leave.

Remember, they’re only open four hours, she walked in 30 minutes after they started. She probably took up half an hour, maybe more, but while they were doing that, she pushed everybody out of the building. And then the camera caught this video of her in the empty restaurant, dancing. 

I want you to picture that you are that guy that’s watching it – you own the company. You’ve got bills to pay. You’re a son of a veteran who was in the Navy. 

There’s a big American flag on the wall, a bunch of pictures of your dad, and various different things like that around the place. It’s a veteran’s type of a place. 

I want you to just think if you were the owner of this company and you watched the security camera recording of this lady dancing happily after she emptied out your store. Do you get the idea from the owner’s perspective? 

What I felt was the lady has no empathy for destroying a business. It actually makes her kind of feel good.

I couldn’t hold a position like that. And I’m not saying that everybody who does that is like her. If I had a job like that, I would certainly really dislike having to shut somebody’s business down, or even having to disrupt it long enough for somebody to make copies.

Restaurants Are Being Destroyed

As we all know, the restaurant industry is absolutely being destroyed because of COVID. 

One hundred thousand restaurants have closed in just 2020. Losses of $240 billion. It’s mind boggling. 

The nation has lost 11.5 million jobs. 

We could all unite together and solve any problem. But as long as there are people who are sabotaging, people who are undermining, people who are invalidating, and those types of behaviors, then it only devolves into “force gets force.” That’s the rule. 

I want you to really understand and embrace that there are some people who do those behaviors. It’s not everybody. I don’t have this mean look. I don’t have this fear. I don’t have this anger.  I embrace all. But when I feel those symbols that I described to you, those words, when I feel those from another, I just don’t let them get access. 

The Price You Pay for Being Elite

And so for the person who is looking at network marketing, and you’re afraid of being judged, I assure you that for anything you want to do that’s above the norm, there will be attempts of undermining, invalidation, sabotage and subversion. 

It’s going to happen. 

In fact, it’s going to happen anyway, no matter what you do. This is the price you pay for wanting more or being elite. 

You’ve got to be strong and stay close to true allies, people who are doing what you want. 

This is what I want you to understand: Somebody doesn’t take you out. You fear another. Somebody’s view of you is costlier than everything that’s ever happened about COVID, I assure you. 

When you have that power to make your decision and keep that decision, that’s senior to everything else. 

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